So, since this past Tuesday we were supposed to have our conference call with the birth mom....It hasn't worked out yet. Apparently there are some phone issues on her end. She is currently in Pennsylvania with her family, and due back to Utah this weekend. This is once again proving to us that there is never a moment you are "sure" until it is legal in the state it is happening in. We did however get an encouraging call from our caseworker in Utah today. She has been so kind to check in with us every couple days. Today she spoke with the birth mom's case worker, and the case worker had once again spoken with the birth mom, and they are saying that they want the "match" with us to be official. That was nice to hear. Our caseworker in Utah said that she would like the conference call to happen first before signing contracts to be a little more sure since we have had so much trouble getting her on the phone. So everyone is planning on Monday being the day the call should happen...we shall see!:)
So the process we have yet to go through is first the conference call...then it sounds like the contracts are taken care of at that point. If all that goes well, we would drive to Utah on Monday the 16th and meet with the birth mom in person that day. If that goes well, the next day the 17th we will be parenting the sweet baby boy she births. At that point we take charge of him, but it is still not legal. The paper work has to go through the court system and then when it comes up in turn, the birth mom has to show up in court and relinquish her rights. That is the process ahead....
So, now the part that is neither legal or logical...
It was so nice to hear from my friend Lori about her adoptions yesterday...such good reminders as we approach this point of our journey. We GET to go love on a precious birth mom, and a baby, and the Lord knows the rest. We trust in his perfect plan for them and for us. We are doing our best to begin the attaching and excitement of this baby, but at the same time holding loosely to the outcome, at the same time knowing the Lord has led us to this point...so it is a daily, moment to moment thing. Now that a birth mom actually chose us I feel so moved to pray for constantly...and not for my sake, but for her...to feel the love of Jesus...for her to know that Jesus loves her, for her to realize that she is accepted as she stands right now...to experience some mercy and grace in her tough life...I'm praying that when we talk to her and meet her that we can lavish some of that on her. Such a divine opportunity...So if any of you would join me in praying, I sure would appreciate that. I haven't mentioned her name because of privacy purposes up to this point...I told my one friend earlier this is like a sweet and sour pickle...but it's the same pickle...1/2 sweet and 1/2 sour...This precious young girl is providing our second child! A dream come true for me and for us....how sweet is that? The Lord has provided everything up to this point, and how awesome is that???? Then the sour part is that this poor mama has such a rough life, and road that she has come to this point, and here is giving up her precious child...Kinda sour...but also sweet that she loved him enough to give that to him....Part of me is soooo excited and soooo happy, and part of me prays and grieves for this mama...I mean part of it is that I know how hard pregnancy is, and have had a child and I cannot fathom this. So today this is where we are and just living our life, praying and moving forward trusting God our father. Thank you Lord for this blessed time and opportunity!!
I'm praying with you, for this mom. What a difficult act of faith it must be for her to give her baby a different life. I cannot even imagine....but what wonderful parents he will have:) I'm so happy for you.♥
ReplyDeleteI 100% agree with you about adoption being ... bittersweet? I don't know if that's the right word, but you said it right! It is beyond amazing to me that a mother would give their baby life when the world tells her it's "easy" to have an abortion. And then to also make the decision to let their baby live a life they can't give them.
ReplyDeleteSo, I rejoice with you in this amazing amazing place you guys are. And I also lift the young girl up in prayer!